tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8823582907587581923.post7800964135964801568..comments2024-01-07T18:31:17.323-07:00Comments on Keeping Up With the Joneses: I Thought This Post Was Going to Be So Different at Four O'Clock Yesterday Afternoonsweetlissybughttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14077310701550439380noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8823582907587581923.post-84106204620177297872012-09-20T14:43:26.307-06:002012-09-20T14:43:26.307-06:00This is heartbreaking. I cannot handle when adults...This is heartbreaking. I cannot handle when adults are sharp with words towards children that are doing their best. PLEASE make sure that the coach is aware. I would be upset if it were my child or was another. This Dad needs to be coached on coaching, especially with children that are beginning a sport. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8823582907587581923.post-65292161370726854782012-09-19T22:35:05.685-06:002012-09-19T22:35:05.685-06:00I'd talk to the city. I know the city sets th...I'd talk to the city. I know the city sets things up with the coach, but they ought to be aware of what the parents are doing. I've seen parents be asked to leave and I've seen refunds be given when a child has to leave the sport because the parent is out of control. That parent was out of control. They are little boys. Its not pro.Kjerstenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13062636982219911921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8823582907587581923.post-24967619521284710362012-09-17T12:54:38.284-06:002012-09-17T12:54:38.284-06:00I commented yesterday, but I didn't think it w...I commented yesterday, but I didn't think it worked. It didn't. Anyway- <br />How's Kaleb? I so feel for him. :-( it is not fun to be out on a field and have everyone yelling at you to do something. That happened to me in t-ball when I was 6 & I never played again after the season was over. I remember I got the ball and then everyone was yelling at me and I couldn't understand what anyone was saying and one player wanted me to throw it to him and another one to her. I didn't know what to do and I hated that feeling of everyone yelling so I closed my eyes and through the ball to no one. I'm still kind of embarrassed about that. I think that happens to kids all the time and I bet similar things happen to older people too. Even professionals mess up sometimes. I'm glad I experienced it though and remember so I always have sympathy about stuff like that and think it has helped me be a better mom and art teacher. The one thing I regret is not playing again. Maybe I wasn't as bad at sports as I thought. So Kaleb, don't quit the team and don't quit playing soccer, but do remember how it felt and then when you are a teenager and an adult you'll know exactly how to be a great coach because you will have compassion and understanding and you'll know to just walk over to the person and tell them what you need them to do and you will remember sometimes players just need someone to put there arm around them and talk nicely and give tips and advice.<br /><br />Melissa, that dad was out of line and you have every right to be upset. Use it as a teaching/learning moment. You can talk to Kaleb about how even adults make mistakes, because that dad clearly mad a mistake in losing his temper and needs others to be forgiving and understanding too. That said, I do think you should call the coach and let him know what happened because that dad should not be asked to sub again. I would tell the coach in person at the next practice so he can see that you are not angry, but have a concern and in a friendly way say something like: Kaleb is a little nervous about practice today and could really use some extra encouragement. Saturday's game didn't go so well. I don't know if you heard about it or not. Kaleb just got nervous with everyone yelling at him and didn't know what to do & we've talked to him about what he can do next time and we're learning from this, but he took it quite personally when profanity was directed at him. We don't talk like that in our home so he was very shocked and hurt by it. As a parent I don't approve of speaking to children that way and watching your coaching style I don't think you find that a good way to teach children either. I just thought you should be aware as the coach that parent's coaching style and also thought you'd like to know in case you notice Kaleb acting different during practice and you care about all these kids so it helps if you know what the kids are going through. Also, what specific skills should we practice with him at home so he can practice and be given another chance (even if it's just during a practice or scrimage) so he has a chance to prove to himself that he can do it and isn't a failure?<br /><br />If you are too upset about talking to the coach maybe ask Kurtis. Or if a friend witnessed it, maybe a friend could say, "You need to know that Saturday person X swore at Kaleb. That's not a healthy coaching style and I hope he doesn't get asked to sub again." Something like that can really only be said by a third uninvolved party though (that saw it). If YOU say that it sounds rude and unfriendly and like you aren't willing to do your part to make the situation better so I think it's better to take the other approach so it looks like you just want to move on but do what is best for your kid. Staying calm & happy is the key.<br />Hope all that was helpful. Call me if you want to talk about it.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02658764606974968255noreply@blogger.com